Be who you want to be

Why do we let what others think affect us? Why does someone else get to determine who we are? why do we care what they think?
I know that I dont. If someone wants to look me up and down and make a judgment then I let them, to me it just means that they are so bored with themselves and thier lives that they have to take a moment to judge me. Why do they care? Whats it to them?
I dont understand how people can sit there and think that they have the authority to judge other. Are the perfect? have they never made a mistake? Do they look perfect everyday to everyone in the world?
Its so wrong and so stupid. I used to care what others thought and I would let it get to me. I put thier thoughts to action by letting it get to me. If i wouldnt have then thier thoughts would have just stayed thoughts and thoughts dont mean anything unless they are put to action. I then took a step back and said, "Why does what THEY think have to affect me?" It shouldnt! Who are they? They are a person just like me. Ya we're different but isnt everyone? Why would you want to be like someone else? With how many people there are in this world why would you want to be like someone else? Its like you are trying to be someone your not, but you dont know that you are doing that because you have not taken the time to find yourself. I promise that if you take the time to find yourself and learn to love yourself despite what others think you will be much happier. No can love you unless you love yourself. Sooner or later people can tell you are being fake. you can decide for yourself, you cant be alone, you cant make a choice without thinking about what someone else wantes or would like best.
There is no time in life to waste it trying to please everyone elese. Why cant we see that the most important person to please is ourselves? I have learned that the hard way. I have lived too much of my life caring what others thought and letting it get to me. I am me and no one else and I am proud of that. Ya I have made mistakes but i have grown from them and I am proud of that. Im proud that I was strong enough to grow form them and not let them destroy me. I think that I have become a better person and am on my way to being an even better person because of my change of thought.
In reality the only person that we can control is oursleves. We can have an influence on others but we cant control what they do or how they act or think. Knowing that then we should try to influence others in a positive way. We can give to others and serve. We are a people of selfishness and its about time we step out of our selfish box and give. Instead of looking at someone less fortunate and looking down on them, look at them and pray for them. If you can give in anyway, smile at them, say hi, dont be afraid to sit next to someone at a coffee shop you dont know and talk to them becasue you always see them sitting alone.
People are so fascinating to me and I love to learn about people and where they came from and where they have been adn where they are going. I want to meet as many people that I can in my life and I want to have a positive outlook on them and life.
Life is to short to waste on letting others thoughts get us down. We should look at our lives everyday and realize that there is so much to be grateful for. Be proud of who you are because you are beautiful, your are amazing, now let the world now! Be who you want to be not what others think of you. For you are you and only you and can only be you, and that you is perfect, and no one can say otherwise.